What is going on in UK?

sunny_apple · Joined: 20 Jan 2009 Posts: 1 Feedback Score: 0

Hello all
I am a foreign girl who is in my 20s and just confused and disappointed by English culture recently.

I am wondering why people over 50s can not be more nice and parent like to young people in 20s and 30s and stop encouraging people including children get too old.
Some people even show off in front of children under 20 about the fact that they have experience of sex, as a result the teenagers here have crazy sex party when they should prepare themselves and wait until they are actually ready to meet their other half. I think some part of English culture is somewhat disgusting.

I recently have been told by a man who is nearly 50, who thinks that being 45 is just the same as 25.
If the 25 year old person and 45 year old person is just the same, then where IS the life of 20 years between those ages? It is gone.

Where I come from, young people in 20s or 30s are usually considered as normal young people, not so far from turning to be an adult, almost like a kid, by those people in 40s or 50s. To young people, they are more like aunt or uncle or parent like, and in return they get young people's respect and fondness.

This kind of greater thinking and nice gesture and balance seems not to be exist in England or UK anymore.
I hate to be called Madam or Lady for example, which I think that that kind of words would sound respectable to older people, when it sounds rather jeering and unsuitable to young people.

I do think that being in 50 or 60 is young still. At the same time, this is a period of life that could be at the happiest, you are succeeded in love and career, and you have your own family, I don't understand what good it comes if they get jealous of these poor young people who sometimes has got nothing more than a college degree.

I think being 25 years old is certainly not a child, but closer to child, since only 5 years have passed after turning to be an adult, whereas being 45 year old means 25 years have passed after turning to be an adult.

Some say there is greater difference between 15 year olds and 25 year olds than 25 year olds and 45 year olds, I think this is supposed to be the opposite, when 25 year olds can not be a parent to 15 year olds when 45 year olds can be a parent to 25 years. That's the way I see.

I also think children are happy if they live just as children, being under 20 years old, is certainly a child, even people over 20 is like a child, until they are studied and graduated and learn things all they need and find the way of living, and get married and have kids of their own and can be happy about their growth and maturity.

Young people seems to be chalked by these people nagging them to get work, nagging them to get old, nagging them to get married soon. Well, I think for a person to be ready to have a descent career and meet their other half takes certain time and should take certain time.

The teens who close to 20 are almost an adult, but they don't have to become so old just because of that. However in this country and America and in many other so called advanced countries, they are losing that kind of balance, the period of younger life and boundary are getting lower and lower, I even heard that if you are over 16 you are an adult. That was the most ridiculous thing I ever heard.

I do think Britain has a lot of advantage of their own, there is egalitarian principles here for example, particularly in all nations and races, all people in UK has got the idea of all men are equal. It is very beautiful.

I also think that people in 40-60s has another kind of beauty, something that young people can not have,
with their maturity and sophisticated look, along with parent-like charisma and leadership towards youngsters. Which I see my future like that when I reach that age.

It is quite ugly, on the other hand, trying to look just like young person or children even though you are in age that has a child like that of your own.

One of principles in life is that to pass each period of life with the happiness and good aspect that only that period can conquer,
not to stay forever young, as the life is about how to live, not to live forever.

I think the life has at least several stages, not divided into two parts, children and adult.

It makes me also disgusting when I watch people who is old enough to be my father or grand father sometimes seem to be interested in me. I do not want any married man or someone a lot older than me to get interested in me, I only want someone in my own age! Seriously, what is wrong with this country?

When I see older men are interested in me, I also often see young men in my age seem to be only interested in children who is under 20 rather than someone like me in their own age who has more chance of a good relationship.

Even though the teenagers are close to become an adult, I think they are still children who is not ready yet and should be more protected. They are too old these days. Which would, lead into sadder life than happier.

I don't understand if those young men are interested in someone a lot younger than they are, or just interested in someone who is a child yet. The latter, if he really likes the girl, he should wait until she grows up.

People in 20s or 30s are still very young, sometimes look a lot more attractive than they used to, because they gradually gain their individuality, femininity or more manly qualities if you are a man. Today people overlook the fact that whether a couple is a good match of each other
and just crazily look for youth. More youth, more youth, how stupid..

I live in London, these thoughts has been locked up in me for years and it was very disappointing because UK is not a country anymore which I was fascinated and fell in love with when I first arrived here.

I do have lots of feelings towards in this country, I feel that half of me in English as I spent nearly half of my life here, it just breaks my heart to see UK turns worse and worse.